Today I felt like a total failure. My work situation is uncomfortable and toxic. My daughter isn’t thriving. I can’t keep this place up. I’ve lost a whole side of my family. The failed marriage is old news. This is with trying my best.

A friend pointed out how I link things together and call it failure and that I keep looking for things to add to the chain. And that it’s when I look at my situation as a whole that it becomes overwhelming.

He suggested I try an experiment. Only do what I can at the moment, but don’t look ahead and don’t look back.

That way I’m dealing with stuff. I can plan—that’s a present activity. But I’m not overwhelmed by looking ahead at all the scenarios and I’m not feeling like a loser stringing negative things into a trend that’s going through the present into the future.